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The Importance of Being Ornery

4/29/2015

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Above:
A doodle depicting the Ornery part of me as it manifests in my consciousness 
(on the Board of Directors).

I often tell my hand readees that there are only 2 rules to  #HandAnalysisClub:

1.  Just be yourself  
All of you as it most easily + geniously (yes that is a word) rises to the surface.  
Naturally. 
Unfettered. 
Unapologetic.  
Or as Richard Unger would say in his Brooklyn drawl: ''Be the type you is!''

2.  Incorporate your opposite

Today I am going to focus on that incorporate your opposite piece.
It's powerful.
And a delicious, advanced technique for integrating the polar opposite dimensions of yourself so that you can be a yummy whole person.

Incorporate your opposite!
Now in hand analysis world, incorporating your opposite doesn't mean be 50/50.  
It does not mean that you are striving for some kind of equal balance - like half the time you give yourself permission to be a spontaneous, freedom living planner and the other half of the time you honour a time table and agenda.
No!
Not at all.
In hand analysis world, incorporating your opposite means first, be who you are, wholly.
Then, be willing to choose to express / do the complete opposite of what comes most naturally to you a little bit of the time. Let's say ... 20% of the time. It's the grand 80-20 rule.

So let's recap!
In hand analysis world, incorporating your opposite means

80% of the time - Be Who You Is
20% of the time - Be Aware of What Opposite You Would Do In The Same Situation + Be Free to Choose I

For example:
It means completely embrace the part of you that loves to have an unplanned vacation so you can wake up each day freshly free to take advantage of the weather and local seasonal events!  It means also that if seeing an ancient ruin that you have always wanted to see at sunrise takes a little bit of prep work (waking up at 4am to take a 1 hour drive and get into place) you can call upon your opposite stable schedule-minding side to get to bed at 10pm and set the alarm for 3am so you don't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity.

Being ornery is a way for me express my opposite.

In #HandAnalysisClub, being ornery is frequently an opposite of features such as: 

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1.   Water hands
        Image courtesy of http://handanalysisonline.com

2.  D-Forks on Heart Line
       Image courtesy of www.markseltman.com

3.  Whorl (Service) Fingerprints
      Especially if you have 4 or more
       Image courtesy of http://www.academyofhandanalysis.org

4.  Water Heart Line
     Image courtesy of http://handanalysisonline.com

Guess what?
Especially in the cases above, being ornery in #HandAnalysisClub can evolve to become a super-power of sorts.

This is my story, being a person who has 10 whorls and water elements in her hands. 
Heck, I actually have all 4 of the markings above so being ornery has truly + absolutely become a super-power! 
It is a super power that allows me to truly choose to say yes or no to any request or opportunity because I choose it freely.  Powerfully.
My previous default is  reactively saying yes to everything especially request of my time and attention or reactively saying no to everything (the other extreme which I admittedly, have little experience with until very recently).

So here is what I have learned about:

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1.  How does ornery feel to you?
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Ornery feels different to everyone.  
The formal definitions of ornery frequently cite: bad-tempered, easily annoyed, difficult to control and combative.  
For me, ornery is when I feel cranky and growly.  
When I am in prime ornery mode I feel resentful, backed into a corner, guarded and uncooperative. 
I feel like my shoulders are hunched down together and that I have a perpetual frown.  I feel heavy and defensive.
What does ornery feel like to you? Learn to describe it so you can notice when it shows up.

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2.  What does ornery tell to you?

Feelings are genius clues to our condition.
For me, feeling ornery is usually my alert that I am out of alignment in some way.
It usually means that I am acting out of reaction rather that thoughtfulness.  
It means I am just doing without consciously , intentionally choosing to do something.  
It might also mean that I have forgotten to ask and answer the 3 cardinal questions for Whorl fingerprint people before responding to a request:
  • Is it good for them?
  • Is it good for me?
  • Do I want to do this?

3.  What's the rescue kit for lifting ornery + returning to Happyland?

I used to judge myself quite harshly for being cranky or getting cranky.  
I mean, what kind of a selfish and terrible person am I for agreeing to do something I don't really want to do anyway?  Joking!  So joking.  
Nowadays, thank goodness, I have come to recognize and value my ornery state of feeling as an indicator that something is off.  
Life is meant to feel easy and feel good, really and truly, so ornery is a delicious contrast to direct us back to the easy, pleasurable joy (= Happyland).  
When I notice that I am cranky, here's what I do to honour the ornery and help move it along:
1. Celebrate:  Always.  If I notice I am feeling something, especially ornery, first I give a little whoop of thanks that I noticed it.

2. Make Friendly:  Get friendly with the ornery. I don't want to rush the crankypants part of myself along - I just want to notice it and wave hello.
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3. Listen:  I talk to the ornery part of me and ask what's going on.  You'd be surprised what this does sometimes.  Usually it gives me some more insight as to what has ticked me off or what is pressing against me. ''Talking'' can be done via journalling, quiet time, conversation with a friend, meditation, checking in with a support person etc.

4. Choose: Usually after that introspective part, I often ask myself if I still want to feel ornery.  Then I choose to DO (see next) accordingly 

5.  Do: Hey, sometimes I do want to feel ornery!  True story.  It's fun!  Also a healthy and honest expression of my anger connects me to the truth of what I am feeling and power - all good stuff when expressed in a conscious way.  So if I want to keep feeling ornery and run with Crankypants I usually choose what I am going to do. Keep doing what I am doing perhaps (argh, this one can be hard, especially when you think you have no option otherwise) or stomp around monstrously and deeply only to notice the grump has dissipated.  Possible.  Or if you don't wait to be cranky, do something to pull you out of it.  Some physical experience that will immediately bring you to a feeling state of something other than cranky.  I like to turn on music and dance.  Or go notice and appreciate some beautiful flowers.  Or take deep breaths.  Or pay attention to my cat.  Or go do something that brings me joy.

It's through exercising all these things I have come to really, truly enjoy the state of ornery as a wise indicator of how in alignment I am.
How my actions are matching - or not matching - my wants.  
It allows me to course-correct!
And that my friends, is why it is important to embrace your opposites, even if it feels initially uncomfortable.  
There's usually wisdom in the opposite - even if it means becoming the embodiment of Grumpy McNo!

Love from your resident Crankypants,
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Celebrating 2013

1/21/2014

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Hello amazing friends!
As one who loves to celebrate I could not resist taking a moment to celebrate my absolutely epic 2013.
It was a year that brought me such learning, challenge + ultimately joy in many areas of my life, personal to professional.  You have shared in much of it with me and it all started here about a year ago, after my dear friend April O'Peel taught me "everything about the internet" in exchange for me making her a beluga whale costume.
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True story. Image courtesy of Reckless Photography.
This gave me the ability to express my internal world into a digital format that has profoundly shifted my life.  This ability to share what I create seems to have unleashed a creative waterfall in me + I find myself in a constant loop of inspiration, creation + sharing.  I intend this to all be in the service of helping others
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With that in mind, I focused on creating + sharing only what truly lit me up and made me feel a whole body nummy yes.  As Danielle Laporte says in The Desire Map, 
"It's supposed to feel good." 


Using pleasure + desire as a guide post, I now present to you my top 3 squeep-worthy happenings of 2013:

ONe:

Integrating my artist self with my palliative care nurse self = 
#DIEAWESOME
in the form of a book, blog + manifesto
My intention is to inspire resonant reflections and honest, courageous conversations about experiences related to death and dying.
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Note from the Universe ... Regarding the Pursuit of Allurements

6/28/2013

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Dear friends,
A few things before I tuck myself in:
  • I love Bellingham.  This is one gloriously funky little city with beautiful land, beautiful culture and lovely people.  In fact, some of my favorite people live here :)
  •  This course is amazing.  HAND ANALYSIS.  Fingerprints!  I am just scratching the SURFACE of this way of seeing the world.  Can you imagine?  You have had the same ones since you were 4 months old in utero and they are unalterable in this lifetime.  They are an entirely unique map - your unique map.  Right in front of you, a built-in resource to companion you upon your soul's adventure in this life time.  FUCKING AWESOME.  Definitely a note from the universe - heck, it's a bloody love letter from the universe.  It's amazing.  Learning how to read this language blows my mind.
  • Speaking of love letters from the universe I'd like to show you the one I received today in class!                           Sit down, it's a doozy.
These are my notes from today's class. 
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In analyzing my one fingerprints, I have discovered that I'm a 10 whorl person.  This indicates that my school of specialization in life is service.  In fact, it appears that I'm doing some kind of a PhD in service as my life purpose and lessons are all in ... you guessed it, service. My 10-whorl pattern is a unique one that comes with an ancient Chinese name: "Lone Tree on the Plain."  Part of what makes it unique is that my particular twist on service PhD is the fact that I have to find my path to service by mastering selfishness.  This explains a lot :)

What's more is that if you examine the picture, you'll see that I actually have a tattoo on my little left pinky finger of the symbol for a whorl.
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I got this tattoo in 2011 for significant reasons. This is the alchemical symbol for the sun, chosen to represent the necessity of renewing agreements and refreshing communications in relationship.  As it turns out, I discovered just a couple weeks ago that it is also the symbol for stillpoint in cranial sacral therapy which delighted me.  Today, in class as I went to the board to transcribe my own code and realized that I had a tattoo of my code on my pinky I felt a shiver and whoop of delight wave through me.  This little symbol, for me, confirms that I am right where I need to be at this very moment, learning about my life purpose of service to others and the planet being equally as important to serving myself.  Thanks hand analysis and best of all, thank you, gorgeous and hilarious Universe for sending me this awesome love note of confirmation.  Yes, I get it:  keep pursuing my allurements, no matter how funky or "unreasonable."  Life is amazing.

Thank you for sharing this gorgeous moment with me :)
With all my love,
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Post Script Sharing

HAH!  
Funny coincidence it is, this is one of my most favorite + resonant quotes:
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If you are a illuminated wisdom (doodle style) enthusiast I invite you to check out my doodles at www.joantrinhpham.tumblr.com
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The Pursuit of Allurements

6/28/2013

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Hello lovelies!
I'm freshly finished my Cranial Sacral Therapy program! 
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What a fantastic program!  I thoroughly enjoyed learning about this super interesting therapy and as someone new to body work, I found the Langara Program to be super supportive and helpful.  Upon my program completion this past weekend I was extremely heartened to know that I had completed 125 hours of clinical work in addition to all my study and practice time.

Best of all, I had the great joy of working on two people as case studies.  These two super guinea pigs saw me for a series of treatments (5-6 sessions) over the span of two months.  It was an amazing learning process for both of us as we were all delighted to discover first hand that cranial sacral therapy was indeed an effective therapy in the case pain and decreased function secondary to suspected herniated disc and chronic fatigue exacerbated by a concussion.  For me it was very gratifying to observe effects that lasted beyond a single treatment.
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I am most definitely going to continue to practice!  I plan on having a home-based, part-time practice starting late summer / early autumn.  I will be moving to a new home in mid-July to set up the space for this.  I am filled with gratitude to have a room of my own and for my live well / die awesome / celebrate headquarters :)

In the meantime, I'm off to an unexpected adventure of epic proportions this weekend.
I rekindled a childhood fascination with palm reading on Tuesday evening only this time, it came "packaged" and organized as the art and science of Hand Analysis.  In particular, I witnessed Richard Unger's masterful skill and quick acerbic wit as he read hands with the intention of helping people discern their life purpose which was pretty resonant and phenomenal.


It really sparked the hungry curiosity of my inner super nerd.
A dozen circumstances harmonized to my delight and surprise which makes it possible for me to attend a weekend intensive to learn how to analyze hands and fingerprints. So, I'll be in Bellingham resting this weekend in a geek version of recreation, pursuing my allurement :)
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Hoping you yield to the magnet of your passions too,
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POst ScRIPT WISDOM:

I used to resist curiosity because it was scary to face unknowns.  Little teeny tiny experiments at a time have proven to me that this illustrated wisdom is true.
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Get curious / jump in + get messy / expect magic :)
Results vary from little to SUPER awesome.
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